Have you ever been around someone who constantly complained about everything? Someone who had something negative to say about everything no matter what is was and if it was something that they did or didn’t do , they complained that someone else should have taken care of it?
People who are always complaining will never be happy. Self-centered people will always have something to complain about.
I experienced a dream last night of myself trying to help someone that I know. They had somehow fallen over a cliff. I had to make a choice to forget about myself and risk my life to help save theirs or just let them fall. I made the choice to save their life. I had found a long thick rope and handed it to her. Immediately before she even grabbed the rope she started complaining that the rope was too big that she wouldn’t be able to grab hold of it. But it was the only rope available. Her next complaint was “why are you not pulling me up?” Well actually I was pulling her up but she was so focused on herself that she didn’t realize it.
In the dream, I continued to pull her up and in the process nearly going over the cliff my self. The skin on my hands had peeled off and they were bleeding profusely; but she continued to complain. When I finally pulled her to safety, she had no thank you’s but complained that I pulled her up to hard and her wrists were hurting.
Many people today are just like the girl in the dream; unappreciative, complainers, whiners, unthankful, ungrateful. But how do you deal with such folk? For me it’s hard to say because I enjoy helping others and seeing them overcome whatever it is whether they are thankful or not.
The best thing to do is represent Christ in your dealings with them. Jude 22-23 tells us that it is important to exercise our faith serving others, even when there maybe danger involved. We are to demonstrate God’s love for the fallen and share the gospel with the lost.
I have had personal experiences with making sacrifices to help people and all they did was complain: “this is not pulled together” “that’s not on right” “put this like that” “this is not cleaned right”, the list goes on and on. In reality if people don’t like how you do a thing for them, they should do it themselves. I have also come to realize that you can’t make everyone happy no matter how well you do something or no matter what sacrifices you make to help them. These kind of people are usually self-centered and only care about their own happiness. They will never find true happiness unless they come to Christ. But nevertheless, we must strive to live the Christ example and be a light in spite of.
Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV) 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
