We Need A Resolution

Times are not like they used to be.  I remember as a child my friends and I would fight one day and be friends again before the sun went down or at least by the next day and our parents never had to get involved.  I also remember that sometimes we would take out anger out on each other by dancing or racing down the street, and whoever won, well they just won.

In today’s society our young people fight with weapons and parents also get involved and want to fight other children as I have seen several news reports about parents jumping kids after school and on school buses.

It has become very challenging for parents to deal with many of our youth today because society has come up with so many rules of what parents can or cannot do to their children.  Prayer was taken out of schools, and then parents aren’t allowed to spank their kids.  What’s next?

I am reminded of a story of a young girl who had been threatened by some other kids who wanted to fight her.  This young girl (we’ll call her Shelley), had obviously become very upset by this.  Another young girl (we’ll call her Carla) who had no idea what was going on and had nothing to do with the incident,  as Carla past by her, she saw that she was upset and attempted to console her.  “Are you okay?” Carla asked.  Shelley, still mad jumps up and began to curse at Carla and threatened her.  Carla, stepped back, apologized for being concerned, and walked away.  Several minutes later Shelley’s mom and brother had arrived. Shelley pointed at Carla as one of the girls who had threatened to fight her; Carla was astounded. She had no idea what had just happened.  Shelley’s mom had threatened Carla and told her that they could settle the matter outside in the parking lot.  “I’m not sure what is going on” Carla stated to Shelley’s mom, “I saw her upset, and asked her if she was okay”. At this point Carla found out what really happened and so did Shelley’s mom.  Other adults got involved and the issue was resolved. 

The reaction of Shelley’s mom is clearly one of the reasons our youth are involved in so much violent activity.  Sometimes the parents are to blame.  Now I am not saying that all negative acts of children are the parents fault but in this situation the parent was clearly ready to fight a child; and for what? Shelley’s mom is a prime example of how parents are lacking in parental guidance and education.  She obviously did not think about the fact that if she had harmed this child she would have gone to jail, her children would have been displaced, she most likely would have lost her job, and she would now have a criminal record.  It is obvious that Shelley is not use to someone looking out for her and consoling her when she feels bad. It seems that she has been taught that when you’re angry, take it out on everyone.

Parents need to instill better conflict resolutions in their children.

Let’s teach our children more respect not only for others but for themselves. If they don’t respect themselves, no one else will.

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Ephesians 6:4  “. . .provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord”

Fragile! Handle With Care!

We must always think before we speak. You never know what kind of challenges people are going through in their minds. For some it is a struggle to understand what the average person comprehends.

I am reminded of a situation where a young boy (Jared) came to church I once attended with his aunt Haley. She keeps him some times. Jared had just turned fourteen. I had the liberty to sit in the youth Sunday school class that day and it just happens to be that Aunt Haley was substituting. Aunt Haley was a bit mean at times especially to her nephew but I never thought she would be as mean as she was on this day.

As class began Aunt Haley asked the class who had given their life to Christ? Everyone raised their hands except Jared. This displeased Aunt Haley and she scorned him in front of his peers. Jared didn’t understand salvation as he stated. Well, Aunt Haley didn’t set a very good example for the class as she continued to call him out embarrassing him in front of the class. Jared never returned to that church with Aunt Haley.
I expressed to Ms Haley that she made a bad choice in how she dealt with her nephew, because now he doesn’t like going to church (especially with Aunt Haley). She didn’t care because she felt that because he was family, she could do whatever she felt.

Some of the other children in the class comforted him afterwards but he still decided not to return to that church. Ms Haley didn’t substitute again either.

I felt that Ms. Haley should have took the time to teach Jared what being a christian is all about, then allowed him to make an informed decision. What do you think? How do you think Ms Haley should have dealt with the situation?

We must be careful how we deal with others, especially our youth. We cannot embarrass them or make them feel inadequate because they don’t fit the mold that we feel they should. If we are going to teach our children we must do so in a manner of love, forgiveness, understand
ing, and patience.

It is our job to take care of, protect our children, and raise them in love and guidance.

Happy Child Guide -How To Get Any Child To Stop Misbehavior & Listen

> Luke 18:16 (NIV) “But Jesus called the children to him and said, "Let the little children come to me, and   do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”
> Prov. 22:6 (NIV) “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
> Ephesians 6:4 (NLT) “. . . do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”